12 Reasons To Homeschool

by Alison on August 13, 2010

Or, more appropriately titled, “12 Reasons Why WE Homeschool”.

1. They’re our children.  We believe that, ultimately, it’s our responsibility to raise our children to adulthood and overseeing their education is a big part of that.  Our children don’t belong to the state and they don’t belong to any village- they live in the state and are part of the village, but they’re ours, which makes the responsibility ours.  I also firmly believe that if homeschooling were not an option for us, the responsibility to oversee their education would still be ours and we would be doing our best to work with our children after school and on weekends and pretty much every chance we’d get to make sure they were learning and to do our best to influence what they’d believe about what they’d be learning…

2. Even the best of teachers will never know our children the way we do.   Their strengths, their weaknesses, their struggles, their personalities, there is so much uniqueness in each child that no teacher could ever really know a room full of children and the ways they best learn, the ways they’re best motivated, the ways they best receive love and encouragement.  Any one of our children could so easily get lost in the shuffle that becomes a room of 30 or more agemates.  That will never happen here, even in a big family.

3. Our children won’t be left behind.  When the class moves on before they’ve really grasped and fully understood a concept, our children won’t be left behind, falling further behind each time a new concept builds on the one that they never understood.

4. Our children won’t be held back.  When the class slows down or stops so the teacher can “teach down” to a class that isn’t moving as fast as the brightest children are capable of.  When bright children get bored in school they lose their zest for learning and they often even end up with academic and/or behavioral problems which never would have happened if they had been allowed to keep learning and exploring at their own pace.  Just ask my youngest sister.  I should have her write a guest post…

5. Our children won’t  need to waste half their day waiting in lines or waiting for everyone to “settle down”.  They also won’t need to waste hours and hours every week writing line upon line on worksheet upon worksheet and other various forms of “twaddle”.

6. Our children don’t need to be surrounded by 30 of their peers for more hours in a day than they spend with their family.  As a homeschooler, the socialization “issue” really gets to me.  What gets to me is that so many people see it as an issue in the first place!  Outside of school, where else in society does anyone spend the better part of their day in an age segregated environment?  I can’t think of any.  My husband certainly doesn’t work with all people his age.  When I go to the grocery store, I see and interact with men and women from teen chashiers to senior citizen greeters.  We go to church with people of all ages.  Even professional sports teams have a range of ages, from fresh out of college to the aged old geezers like Brett Favre… I digress. 

A classroom full of children the same age is a completely artificial envrionment that we have somehow come to believe is a necessary part of growing up.  Well, I don’t believe it.  There will always be exceptions, but the majority of homeschoolers I know have children who are wonderfully “socialized” after regularly interacting with many people of all ages most every day. 

Our children have friends.  They get out of the house.  Our teen plays soccer with the local Christian school.  We get together with other homeschooling families for field trips and play days often, sometimes too often.  Not being in a classroom filled with 30 other children their same age has not and will not be a major problem, in my opinion…

7. Our children can learn at their own pace.  This goes along with 3 & 4, and is important enough of an issue when talking about the best education we can give our children to be its own point.  With several of our children now several years into homeschooling, I’ve seen firsthand how very different not only learning styles can be, but also how different learning paces can be.  I’ve had a couple fast learners and I’ve also had a couple slower learners.  Eventually they get to the same place, but they arrive there at very different times.  Our slower learners would’ve been left in the dust in many classrooms and would probably be wearing some less-than-positive labels by now…

8. Our children can learn in their own style.  Learning styles should be the topic of its own post.  No two of our children learn in exactly the same way.  We can approach most any subject or issue in a variety of ways and even with the most mundane of necessary facts to learn we can incorporate exercises and movements that do a world of wonder for our more kinesthetic learners.  Can you imagine catering to the visual, auditory, verbal, tactile, and kinesthetic learning styles of 30 different kids at a time?  Either can I.  Classroom teachers have my sympathy- they have a tough job, they really do.

9. Our children aren’t pressured DAILY to be “cool”.  So often in our society, cool is synonymous with rebellious, with an attitude that bucks authority.  Our children have more time to grow a healthy sense of self in a less hostile environment so that, hopefully, prayerfully, when they are older and are eventually exposed to more of the world’s pressures they will have a better chance of having the strong sense of self that can withstand that pressure.  Our children will also miss out on the pressure to be in relationships that they are not emotionally ready for.  High schools with day care centers are a sad result of our society’s acceptance of younger and younger people going way beyond going steady.  That’s not something we want for our children.  Enough said.

10. Our children have ample time to pursue personal interests.  Our children have time to practice their violins, to practice the piano, to pursue things like photography and art, soccer, making homemade kites, flying remote control helicopters, participating in community theater productions, or anything else that suits their fancy.  Most kids have little time for outside interests at the end of long days of school, followed by long nights of homework, and when they do get to pursue other interests, it often comes at the expense of time with family.

11. We can teach our children from the perspective of our beliefs.  Our children are not subject to the politically correct agenda of the NEA or the personal biases of a liberal teacher.  Everyone has a bias, and we have the right to raise our children with the particular belief system we believe to be right.  As Christians, we believe it’s important to raise our children in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.  Some people cry “brainwashing”, to which I would answer that everyone is brainwashed.  Everyone listens to someone.  We just happen to wash our brains in cleaner water than some.

12. We can introduce mature topics when we know our children are mature enough to handle it well.  The tougher moral issues like abortion, discrimination, drug abuse, homosexuality, ecology in its extreme examples, pre-marital sex, smoking, tattoos, cults, and so many other issues that are thrust upon younger and younger people each day in our society, we can hold off on and wait to introduce at a time when we believe our children are ready to thoughtfuly consider the subject in light of who they are and in light of what we believe, rather than just be pressured to accept as OK without thoughtful consideration anything that a teacher says is OK. 

We cannot protect our children from all of the influences we wish they didn’t have in their younger years, but living our homeschooling lifestyle means we are almost always with our children and we can guide them through the processing of things when they are exposed too early.  We can discuss things right then and there.  We can influence the opinions they form of the subject, just as the outside world would like to influence them.  You see, like I mentioned in my last point, they are going to get their brains washed, everyone does, and we’d prefer to do the washing with cleaner water than the world has to provide.

- This list is nowhere near exhaustive, in fact, it started out with 10 points and I just kept going, but then I had to stop somewhere, dinner needed to be cooked…

Homeschooling is sooo rewarding, but at times it can also be so hard. Having a list of solid reasons, so you can know why it is you do what you do, can fuel your fire through the times when it may be in danger of dying out.

I do  know that homeschooling is not for everyone, but it’s what we do, it’s where my heart is at, so it naturally becomes the perspective from which I write.  It’s something I’m passionate about, and I make no apologies for that.

* If you’ve considered homeschooling, and have not yet taken the plunge, I do hope this list has at least made you think. 

** If you’d never in a million years consider homeschooling your children, I still hope this list has made you think, about the responsibilities of a parent and about the individual learning needs of each child, and maybe even about the influences that are surrounding your children for more hours in a day than your influence.

*** If you are a fellow homeschooler, I hope this list has encouraged you and reaffirmed you in your decision to make and live out such a huge lifestyle commitment.

 

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{ 24 comments… read them below or add one }

1 pam August 13, 2010 at 8:44 pm

I needed this, as we started our school year this week.

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2 Kate (KnitsInClass) August 14, 2010 at 10:48 am

Thanks for this great post! I actually do not homeschool my children (but am extremely grateful for the learning options we have in the city, including multi-age classrooms) and have utmost respect for those who do.

Our family does know several other families who homeschool their children, and they are indeed well-adjusted, very social, and very smart. There are a lot of falsehoods that surround the concept of homeschooling – thank you for presenting it as what it is: a very viable learning option.

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3 ali August 14, 2010 at 2:41 pm

That’s so cool that there are multi-age classroom options for you in the city! It worked for some hundreds of years, and with better results than most of today’s institutions, in my not-always-so-humble opinion… It’s so neat to hear that there are options like that today!

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4 Jenny @Home is Where... August 14, 2010 at 4:42 pm

Great list! There are so many reasons why we homeschool, and our top reasons have changed some years. You hit some great points, loved your list!

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5 Anne August 16, 2010 at 3:49 am

Woohoo! I think I’ll make my list too – I guess we all have a list, but it’ll be good to put it in writing….

I’m thinking it’ll look a lot like yours, so we may have copyright issues!

Thanks for posting

Love, Anne x

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6 Heather August 16, 2010 at 11:06 am

We homeschool as well. I agree a MILLION percent with all that you said. Our son also has special needs. This allows us to teach him on his level of development, but also because he’s medically fragile, it keeps him way more healthy than if he were at a brick and mortar—where one kid passes every germ to the rest of the school! ;)

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7 neena August 16, 2010 at 11:07 am

This is a great list! We’ve been thinking about homeschooling for a while and you make some great points!

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8 Karen August 16, 2010 at 11:38 am

Thanks for the reminder- it’s time to actually write down my list of reasons as we “officially” begin homeschooling this year. I was encouraged by a friend to keep our personal reasons written down, and handy, for those days where we may need additional inspiration and a reminder of why this is so important to our family.

Many of our reasons are similar, including the brain washing point. I want my children introduced to new ideas where we can have a thorough discussion and they can feel comfortable asking questions.

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9 Bonnie @BonniesBows August 16, 2010 at 11:55 am

Wow- I would LOVE to just copy/paste (but I won’t!) this on my blog! You described nearly word for word the reasons I am trying home school for my family. Thank you!

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10 Eileen August 16, 2010 at 12:09 pm

I have homeschooled my 2 youngest daughters for 11 years now and have not once regretted it for many of the reasons you listed. They have been able to go along at their own pace and for that reason have understood many things much better because we don’t move on until they do. I enjoy having well adjusted teens now who aren’t boy crazy or feeling the social pressures that go along with high school. They enjoy being together and doing things as a family which does my heart good.

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11 Jamie Segrist August 16, 2010 at 1:33 pm

Thanks for sharing! So appreciated that! Wanted to say a BIG Amen!!!! This is my second year of homeschooling and I’m so thankful that we do. I have a fifth grade boy and starting my youngest daughter who is three in her first year of preschool. Not every day is perfect but I’m so fulfilled and my children are so much happier. We are looking into adopting another child around five and I cannot wait to have three children all around me. It makes me so sad to hear mothers happy that their children are going back to school or that they can’t wait until their kids leave. I can’t imagine that! Don’t get me wrong they aren’t perfect but I can’t imagine doing it any other way!

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12 Sherry August 16, 2010 at 1:37 pm

Awesome post! There are so many advantages to homeschooling and you hit the nail on the head with each one of these! :D This is our 3rd year homeschooling. So glad God put it on my heart several years ago. :D

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13 Stacey August 16, 2010 at 2:04 pm

Love this post! We are just getting started on the homeschool journey and recently wrote a “paper” (credit goes primarily to my husband) to help educate our friends and family on our decision. For ease of reading, we have posted in on a blog (not sure if we will continue blogging or note) – ourdecisiontohomeschool.blogspot.com.

For a number of reasons, the comments section is turned off, but I would love to engage in discussion with anyone on the topic and can be reached at smbowers76@yahoo.com.

Thanks again for this list!

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14 Jill August 16, 2010 at 8:40 pm

Loved this post Ali – thank you for sharing your heart – I have written something similar as well on our homeschool blog!

God bless,

Jill

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15 Mama Alvina August 16, 2010 at 9:36 pm

This is a great list, I and my family share the same reasons and many more. Thanks! I love homeschooling! ;)

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16 sally clarkson August 16, 2010 at 11:53 pm

such a great post. Reminds me of the many reasons we decided to homeschool so many years ago. Love your blog and your articles. I am not actually online much in the midst of lots of family and ministry commitments, but I do love the way you write. Blessings!

Sally C.

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17 ali August 17, 2010 at 11:51 pm

Sally- I’m truly honored by your visit and kind and encouraging words! They really mean so very much to me- blessings to you too!

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18 Jenn August 17, 2010 at 11:35 am

Amen! Wonderful post with some very good points! I agree 100% with you and couldn’t have explained our reason to homeschool any better!

I think I’ll send this link to a few of my friends! :D

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19 Pain to Purpose August 17, 2010 at 1:55 pm

Great list! Found my way over from a MckMama tweet. I thoroughly agree with all your points!

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20 Courtney August 18, 2010 at 10:57 am

Amen! Thanks so much for this post! :-)

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21 Jenn August 18, 2010 at 5:21 pm

Wow, great post. I’m really curious to know how you got started. We have the same Christian values and it does seem there are so many positives. My husband and I have a one-year-old so we’re not there yet, but I’d like to know more. Any sources you would recommend? Thanks for the brain workout :)

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22 Traci August 19, 2010 at 12:53 am

Excellent list Ali. I know what you mean about being able to go on and on. It would be nice if there were more people like Kate (Hi Kate!) who can see home educating as the viable education option it is, that any person has the choice to pursue, just as a different person has the choice to pursue any of the other educating venues out there. Respect and understanding can go a long way when people choose to extend them to others.
:)

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23 Chrissy August 19, 2010 at 8:16 am

Yes! Great post! I have seen others make lists, but they came across as too sarcastic or bitter. This is very simple and straight forward. I think I’ll send this to my family so they can better understand us! :) Thanks!

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24 Julie March 27, 2011 at 12:16 pm

I love this! I agree with everything you have written, which is why we homeschool. Number 6 is a big one, which I agree whole-heartedly!! When I am asked about socialization, my response is so similar to your paragraphs and I love the “ah-ha” looks I receive after we talk! Usually I first respond with “So you only hang out or only see people exactly your age all day, right?” and they of course say “no.” Then I proceed. My husband office has workers from 18(young Navy enlisted) to 76(an about to retire, physicists) so why would I insist on my children being in a classroom with students exactly their ages. Children (especially) gain so much from different age groups/social status/race/gender. They learn to accept what is different from themselves, and not see themselves as the only option, or only thing worthy of knowing. They learn new ways of problem solving and embrace different life styles. It wasn’t until the neighbor kids went to school did my children realize how different our life is. These kids are becoming social-snobs, bullying and “just aren’t nice,” per my daughters. Not to say that this is across the board, but my girls much prefer to be with the other homeschoolers. There isn’t in-fighting, teasing or nastiness, like there is with the private school group.

We also travel as much as we can. Our daughters have been in 42 states. When we discuss a state or a historical event, they have something real to relate to it. It is a wonderful life, for us.

Thanks for a well-done, well-thought, loving list!!!
Julie

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